Monday, April 3, 2006

Fuck Buddies???

Can really good friends become fuck buddies?

Here's a question for the ages? Many people will argue that having sex with a friend will automatically destroy the relationship. Some will argue the it alter the status or type of relationship indefinitely. Personally I know that indulging in such an act will definitely change the relationship that you have with your friend, but I would not go as far to say that it would have a negative effect.

Worst-case scenario (in my mind) you try it, you don't like it, you move on. If you're that good of friends, you'll laugh about it later or at the very least be able to talk about it and work things out between the two of you. Best-case scenario, you'll try it, you'll enjoy it, and maybe an actual relationship will develop. Whos to say unless you try it for yourself?

Heres the thing, were all adults, what is the problem in admitting what we want physically from a person. This person is your friend because something attracted you to them or vise versa. Why not transfer that attraction into something physical? Most of the people were friends with are either friend of circumstance (i.e. work, fraternity life, your usual drinking hole, etc) or you started talking to them out of some small attraction (be it their personality or physical attributes).

Im not quite sure where this rant is going, but I know the situation Im going at the moment. I have had female in my life for almost a year thats been a great and fantastic person to have as a friend. A little while ago, a mutual acquaintance of ours started mentioning things to me that more or less changed the way I look at my friend. Ill admit there was some level of physical attraction, but thats just because shes a beautiful person (inside and out). The more I think about it, being in an actual relationship with this person would be very great and positive thing in my life.

What this all boils down to: Do I sacrifice a great friendship for the possibility of more or do I just keep these recently developed feelings inside of me until they pass away???

Let me know what you think?

1 comment:

  1. If yew not a biter for sayin keymahnee..... smh lml